Letting go…Posted: March 30, 2011
I was reminded today of the lyrics from the song “Let Go” by Frou Frou… here’s a link to their entirety, but here’s a really key phrase from the song’s chorus:
“So, let go, so let go
Oh well, what you waiting for?
‘Cause there’s beauty in the breakdown
So, let go, yeah let go
Just get in
Oh, it’s so amazing here
It’s all right
‘Cause there’s beauty in the breakdown”
As humans, Americans, brothers and sisters, husbands and wives, friends and acquaintances, we – myself definitely included – try so hard to hold on. Our culture seems to emphasize control. It puts world-class athletes – those who exert the most ability to control their sport – on a pedestal. Successful leaders are exalted – especially those who control difficult situations. Personal triumphs over situations – control – are praised.
But really there is so little we can control. One of my favorite phrases to tell Madison is “You can never control what anyone else does… heck, we can barely control what WE do or what happens to us…”
Important point – letting go does NOT mean giving up! Letting go means resigning yourself to find enjoyment in the daily fluctuations and challenges in life. To realize that you always have a choice. To embrace the unpredictability of life. If you can find contentment – notice I didn’t mean always finding happiness – in this unpredictability, you’re much more likely to BE happy, to make better decisions. To not be driven by fear, to not be driven by shame. To forgive yourself and others for things that happened that you may not have wanted, but realize that you have to learn to accept it regardless.
Letting go can change your life – it has mine at the times when I embrace its concepts. Maybe it can even change those around you – when they wonder what that spark in your eyes is, what that radiant joy you seem to always have is.
If you’re apathetic about your world, you’ve given up on the idea of your life and existence changing anything. If you complain about government but don’t vote, you’ve given up that your vote matters. If you find yourself unhappy with, say, your sibling’s choices, you’re holding on too tightly.
And maybe we should let go – and find some joy in it. Because there is a beauty in the breakdown that comes from releasing the control you don’t have. And if you know me and see me doing this – remind me to let go. I’ll try to do the same for you. 🙂