Moments of pure perspective…Posted: December 21, 2015
There are these moments of pure perspective in my life. Where I remember how fortunate I am to have this beautiful home, to have an amazing daughter. So many things could have been chosen differently by me to get me elsewhere. So many things could have otherwise happened. We don’t get to change the past and it’s futile to attempt it.
And I’m reminded – by a cat of all things – that love has the true power to soothe. The way you tame a wild thing is to love it, unconditionally, and to also at the same time not lend it a moment of wildness. Those things – love, structure and especially the combination of the two – is what we who truly love others do for them. Kindness, on any scale, is the key to not only taming the wild but to true happiness of your soul.
Which brings us to giving – and the abject need for humans to give. Sure we all give – old clothes to Goodwill, maybe to the Salvation Army when they have those red buckets and the loud bells at the grocery around the holidays – but those are measured gifts. We are either prompted by a date on a calendar, by a bucket at the grocery exit or by a nice man with a dog. Who is to say that any of those things deserve less than the others? I certainly shouldn’t.
I’m working very hard on changing my own mindset of dates on a calendar chosen by a corporation, and instead focusing on dates with human meaning to them. No, I will not shop on Black Friday. I will not buy on Cyber Monday. I will not give a crappy gift card to a family member. I will do my damndest to fill their lives with happiness and hope and to be the best person to everyone. That, I believe is the true meaning of a gift.